The Perfect Guide On Hiring A Virtual Assistant For Online Dating




A virtual assistant or VA is your personal assistant who works remotely. Their scope of work is limitless. Some VAs do data entry work for you if you are too busy to do it on your own, some manage your business social media account, and some may manage your schedule. It may be bizarre but VAs do manage your dating profiles too!

Jenny* has been working online through Upwork for about three years now but sadly, her long term contract ended last January. The competition was fierce. She needed money and she needed it soon so she applied for every job that she thought she qualified but there’s a limit on applications and she started losing hope. “I was thinking of just going back to an office job but I have kids. I can’t leave them at home because my husband is also working so I kept on looking for work in the platform.”

Jenny saw a job post for an assistant to manage a dating profile. She hesitated at first because it was a guy’s profile but she applied because she was desperate for work. “It felt weird because I have never done it before (managing a dating profile). “It is also not so common to see job posts like that but then I used several dating sites before and my experience was good. I applied before somebody got the job.” Luckily, she got the job because of her good work history in Upwork. She talked to her husband just in case he sees her using a dating site.

“He just wanted me to reply and send messages to potential dates at first on because he said he was too busy to do it but when I looked at his profile, I understand why he was having a hard time finding a date. His profile was not optimized to attract women’s attention.” She suggested an edit of his profile. She edited his picture and made catchy lines. “I know what most women are looking for in a dating profile so I made it look like something a woman would take a second look.”

After the edit, she noticed that a lot of women got interested in his profile. Jenny filtered incoming messages. She either ignored or blocked canned messages. She also took note of those who look like scammers trying to squeeze out money from him.

“The hardest part of it was basically his personal information. I don’t know him personally so he had to tell me things that he likes and does not like. I also had to be creative when somebody asks something about him that I do not know. The job was good and I wanted him to find a date but I also wanted to keep the job,” she laughed.

Within a week, Jenny found a good date for him and they met in person. She said that she will be doing it again if there is a chance to do the same job.



When hiring a virtual assistant for online dating, you must take note of these things:



Tips to hire a virtual assistant for your online dating profile


  • Find a good platform.

    • There are several freelance platforms online but make sure that you are protected. Choose the one that has time-tracking and refund features. Make sure to check their support too. It would be best if the response time is fast and it is easy to use. You don’t want to waste your time trying to figure out how it works. You could have just spent your time on the dating site instead. There are also websites offering the same services but make sure to do a research before signing up.


  • Choose the perfect virtual assistant for online dating profile

    • Check reviews first. There may be newbies there that have lots of potentials but if you want to get your money’s worth, go with those who have a good work history. Managing a dating profile is not a simple task. The VA will act just like you. He must be witty and smart to get a good candidate for you. The best candidate should be someone who has done the same task before. Pick someone closer to you. The worst thing you can do is pick someone from another country. A lot can go wrong. The dating culture might be different or worse, there might be a language barrier. One benefit of this is the VA will know good meeting places for you.


  • Be clear on what you want

    • You have to give a list of what you like in a person. You don’t want to meet someone who is not your type. This will also minimize follow up questions from your VA when he is talking to a potential date.


  • Share your schedule with your VA

    • You don’t have to provide your whole schedule but at least let your VA know when you are available.


  • Be careful on sharing your personal information

    • The virtual assistant for your online dating profile will need some information to get the best date for you but do not share personally identifiable information or PII. Examples of which are full name, home, address, and national identification number. Even if you trust your VA, it can get out of hand and scammers might get ahold of it.


  • Read the conversation before meeting your date

    • This is very important. You don’t want to be clueless and end up with a bad impression then spend more money to find another date.



*Not her real name.

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7 Responses

  1. Maria says:

    This is great, thank you for sharing. Very helpful.

  2. This is awesome…I didn’t even know that hiring a VA to look after your dating websites was even an option! I don’t need it but out of curiosity, does it work? do you get a lot of requests?

  3. Anna says:

    I didn’t know that online dating was so serious haha but hey, I guess you gotta do what you gotta do these days!

  4. I never would have thought this was a possibility! But it makes a great work option. I’ve been trying to find a good work from home job to help with the bills. Glad to have another suggestion on my list.

  5. Heather says:

    I honestly didn’t know that VA’s worked for Dating Services. Interesting.

  6. Melinda says:

    This was a very interesting read. Up until a few weeks ago I didn’t even know this was a career option!

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