When technology was not yet advanced, people send letters by mail as a way to communicate and know each other. Penpals were common then. They would wait for days, weeks, or months, depending on the distance just to hear from each other.
Newspapers also played a part in the dating history. An article by Susie Lee on HuffPost titled, The History of Online Dating From 1965 to Now showed that the first personal ad looking for a woman was published in 1965. What a clear way and wide audience to find a date!
Nowadays, it is very easy for singles to find potential partners through dating sites because of the internet. Some people hide their profiles though. You might be wondering what is the purpose of hidden dating profiles despite the fact that dating sites are supposed to be there to advertise that you are available when you are on it.
Do not assume all the time that those who are sending you messages with hidden dating profiles are cheating and does not want to get caught.
Here are some of the common reasons why people hide their online dating profiles.
They don’t want to reject people.
Some people are not comfortable with rejecting those who message them first. They prefer to send messages to those they like. Some dating sites offer this feature in their paid subscription.When you are on a dating site, you receive tons of messages. It can be tiring to reject, let alone read them, so they hide their profiles and initiate the conversation themselves. In that way, they have the option to choose who they talk to. This is also a great way to avoid scammers and annoying canned messages.
They are talking to someone online but are still actively searching just in case the current one does not work out.
Most of the time, people stop talking before they meet offline. The easiest way to handle your dating profile is just to hide it instead of deactivating it completely. It can be a hassle to start a whole new profile if it does not work out with the current person. This is also to consider the feeling of the other person. If you have shown interest, it is awkward for the other person to see that your profile is still set to actively searching.
They are in a relationship and they are just looking for flings or they are not satisfied with their current relationship.
This possibility should not be ignored. In fact, in most dating forums, this is the first impression about hidden profiles. Online dating is not only composed of singles. Some are still in a relationship who are already looking for a new partner. This is a way for them to hide their activity from their partners.It can be a disaster for those who do not know that they are dating a committed person so it would be good to ask politely why their profile is hidden.
They have hidden dating profiles because they are afraid of the society’s perception.
Online dating, for some people, is not something they should be proud of. They feel the need to date but they are afraid of what people will say about them. They also don’t want to appear desperate. Some perceive online dating as only for those who are ugly, old, or insecure. There is a point there though because photoshop is accessible to most people today. Enhanced pictures boost confidence for them to talk to others. Just imagine what would happen if a co-worker comes across your lousy dating profile. Some don’t care but for people who are conservative or shy, this is a disaster.
Some perceive online dating as only for those who are ugly, old, or insecure. There is a point there though because enhanced pictures boost confidence for them to talk to others. Photoshop is accessible to most people today. Just imagine what would happen if a co-worker comes across your lousy dating profile. Some don’t care but for people who are conservative or shy, this is a disaster. That is why hidden dating profiles are more comfortable for them.
Are you hiding your online dating profile? Let me know why in the comments.