Why Do People Have Hidden Dating Profiles? Online Dating Tips



When technology was not yet advanced, people send letters by mail as a way to communicate and know each other. Penpals were common then. They would wait for days, weeks, or months, depending on the distance just to hear from each other.

Newspapers also played a part in the dating history. An article by Susie Lee on HuffPost titled, The History of Online Dating From 1965 to Now showed that the first personal ad looking for a woman was published in 1965. What a clear way and wide audience to find a date!

Nowadays, it is very easy for singles to find potential partners through dating sites because of the internet. Some people hide their profiles though. You might be wondering what is the purpose of hidden dating profiles despite the fact that dating sites are supposed to be there to advertise that you are available when you are on it.

Do not assume all the time that those who are sending you messages with hidden dating profiles are cheating and does not want to get caught.


Here are some of the common reasons why people hide their online dating profiles.


They don’t want to reject people.

Some people are not comfortable with rejecting those who message them first.  They prefer to send messages to those they like. Some dating sites offer this feature in their paid subscription.When you are on a dating site, you receive tons of messages. It can be tiring to reject, let alone read them, so they hide their profiles and initiate the conversation themselves. In that way, they have the option to choose who they talk to. This is also a great way to avoid scammers and annoying canned messages.


They are talking to someone online but are still actively searching just in case the current one does not work out.

Most of the time, people stop talking before they meet offline. The easiest way to handle your dating profile is just to hide it instead of deactivating it completely. It can be a hassle to start a whole new profile if it does not work out with the current person. This is also to consider the feeling of the other person. If you have shown interest, it is awkward for the other person to see that your profile is still set to actively searching.


They are in a relationship and they are just looking for flings or they are not satisfied with their current relationship.

This possibility should not be ignored. In fact, in most dating forums, this is the first impression about hidden profiles. Online dating is not only composed of singles. Some are still in a relationship who are already looking for a new partner. This is a way for them to hide their activity from their partners.It can be a disaster for those who do not know that they are dating a committed person so it would be good to ask politely why their profile is hidden.


They have hidden dating profiles because they are afraid of the society’s perception.

Online dating, for some people, is not something they should be proud of. They feel the need to date but they are afraid of what people will say about them. They also don’t want to appear desperate. Some perceive online dating as only for those who are ugly, old, or insecure. There is a point there though because photoshop is accessible to most people today. Enhanced pictures boost confidence for them to talk to others. Just imagine what would happen if a co-worker comes across your lousy dating profile. Some don’t care but for people who are conservative or shy, this is a disaster.

Some perceive online dating as only for those who are ugly, old, or insecure. There is a point there though because enhanced pictures boost confidence for them to talk to others. Photoshop is accessible to most people today. Just imagine what would happen if a co-worker comes across your lousy dating profile. Some don’t care but for people who are conservative or shy, this is a disaster. That is why hidden dating profiles are more comfortable for them.


Are you hiding your online dating profile? Let me know why in the comments.

Why Do People Hide Their Online Dating Profiles?


Why do people hide their online dating profiles?

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13 Responses

  1. Brandy says:

    I met my other half online, a dating website. We are in year 2 and 1 month, it’s been a real eye-opening being that he’s 11 years older. With that being said, we hid our profile when we first met as a means to just have it hidden since we were seeing where things went. I am pretty sure the hidden profiles are still hidden or long since expired. I can see why many would be embarrassed, but I think we live in a world where that’s the easiest way to meet new people, with similar interests. The bar scene isn’t place to meet your lifelong, usually 😉 Although my Gram met her now husband of over 13 years at a bar … so perhaps love can be found at a bar 😉

  2. Ron Leyba says:

    Too many reasons why they are hiding. Anonymity online is such a thing nowadays.

  3. katriza says:

    I’ve never been on a dating site but I do have friends who have been on them. They tell me some horror stories actually lol. I believe its hard to put yourself out there and I think it takes awhile for someone to feel open enough to allow their profiles to be visable.

  4. Rebecca Swenor says:

    This is great post on reasons why people have a hidden dating profile. I think that those that hide there online dating profiles are just being save. Thanks for sharing the information.

  5. Heather says:

    I met my husband when I was 15, so I have absolutely no experience with online dating. But watching my nieces navigate this world is so interesting.

  6. I am so glad that have no need for a dating profile. But, I do understand the need for privacy. In this day and age when employers do credit checks, keeping a profile private would be something to consider!

  7. Ellaine says:

    Haven’t tried any online dating site but your statements are somehow true. I have friends who did the same before. Love this article, straight to the point!

  8. Andrea says:

    I haven’t thought about this before. I haven’t been a dating site yet, I don’t know why. I am really curious but there is a part of me that believes of meeting people the old fashion way LOL.

  9. Scott says:

    I too have never used a dating website, but was still curious to find out the reasons why. They all make perfect sense!

  10. Vinil says:

    I think most people want to be discreet about online dating. There is still a perception that online dating is only for losers. But I don’t think that is the case. There are a lot of smart people who are online because, in this busy era, it’s hard to go out there, meet people and socialize.

  11. Cindy Gordon says:

    Society’s perception can be a heavy reason. Not to mention friends and family we don’t want to disappoint.

  12. jake smith says:

    I guess most of those who join and hide their dating profiles are at first, shy and not confident in person. So, this is the field where they could start to mingle with others.

  13. Twinkle says:

    Well, I’ve not been on any dating sites ever. So, I found this article quite informative. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

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